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1. When [a man] tells a woman: "Behold, you are consecrated to me with this cup of wine," and the cup is discovered to contain honey [she is not consecrated]. [Similarly, if he tells her: "...Behold, you are consecrated to me with this cup] of honey," and the cup is discovered to contain wine;1Even though honey is more valuable than wine, the kiddushin are not binding, because the stipulation was not fulfilled, and it is possible that the woman indeed desired wine rather than honey. Similarly, with regard to the sets that follow, Kiddushin (48b) explains reasons why it is possible to say that the woman favored either of the alternatives, and she is therefore not consecrated unless the stipulation that is made is met. "...with this dinar of silver," and it is discovered to be gold; "...[with this dinar] of gold," and it is discovered to be silver; "...on condition that I am a priest," and he was discovered to be a Levite; "[on condition that I am] a Levite," and he was discovered to be a priest; "...[on condition that I am] a Givonite,"2Who, like bastards, are forbidden to marry into the Jewish people. (See the notes on Chapter 1, Halachah 7.) and he was discovered to be a bastard; "...[on condition that I am] a bastard," and he was discovered to be a Givonite; "...[on condition that I am] an inhabitant of a town," and he was discovered to be an inhabitant of a metropolis; "...[on condition that I am] an inhabitant of a metropolis," and he was discovered to be an inhabitant of a town; "...on condition that I am poor," and he was discovered to be rich; "...[on condition that I am] rich," and he was discovered to be poor; "...on condition that my house is close to the bathhouse," and it is discovered to be distant from it; "...[on condition that my house is] distant from the bathhouse," and it is discovered to be close to it; "...on condition that I have a maid," "...a daughter who knows how to braid hair," or "...who bakes," and [it is discovered that] he does not have one; "...on condition that he does not have [one of the above,] and [it is discovered that] he does; "...on condition that he has a wife and children," and [it is discovered that] he does not; "...on condition that he does not have [the above,] and [it is discovered that] he does - in all these and in any similar instance, the woman is not consecrated. The same rule applies if she [makes a condition based on] false information.

2. In all the above instances, she is not consecrated even though she says: "In my heart, I was willing to be consecrated to him even though he deceived me and gave me wrong information." Similarly, [if she gave him false information,] she is not consecrated even though he says: "In my heart, I was willing to consecrate her even though she deceived me." [The rationale is that] feelings in one's heart are not [the same as explicit] statements.

3. [When a man tells a woman:] "Behold, you are consecrated to me on condition that I am a perfumer," and it is discovered that he is both a perfumer and a leather craftsman;3Animal feces were used in the processing of leather, and thus leather craftsmen were known for their unpleasant odor. "...on condition that I am an inhabitant of a town," and he was discovered to be an inhabitant of both a town and a metropolis;4I.e., he maintains two homes. or "...on condition that my name is Yosef," and it was discovered that his name was Yosef and Shimon; she is consecrated.

If, however, he told her: "[Behold, you are consecrated to me] on condition that my name is only Yosef," and it was discovered that his name was Yosef and Shimon; "...on condition that I am solely a perfumer," and it is discovered that he is both a perfumer and a leather craftsman; or "...on condition that I am solely an inhabitant of a town," and he was discovered to be an inhabitant of both a town and a metropolis; she is not consecrated.

4. When [a man] tells a woman: "Behold, you are consecrated to me on condition that I know how to read," [for the stipulation to be fulfilled] it is necessary that he know how to read from the Torah and translate what he reads according to the translation of Onkelos the convert.

If he tells her: "...on condition that I am a reader," he must know how to read the Torah, the works of the Prophets and the Holy Writings with proper grammatical precision. [If he tells her:] "...on condition that I know how to study the Mishnah," he must know how to read the Mishnah. "...On condition that I am a sage of the Mishnah," he must know how to read the Mishnah, the Sifra,5A compendium of halachic exegesis of the Book of Leviticus, composed by Rav, a student of Rabbi Yehudah HaNasi, who compiled the Mishnah. Rav was the leader of the first generation of Amoraim in Babylonia. the Sifre,6A compendium of the halachic exegesis of the Books of Numbers and Deuteronomy, composed by Rav. and the Tosefta of Rabbi Chiyya.7A collection of teachings intended to "explain the Mishnah and expound upon concepts that would require much effort to be derived from the Mishnah." Rabbi Chiyya was one of Rabbi Yehudah HaNasi's primary disciples.

5. [When a man tells a woman: "Behold, you are consecrated to me] on condition that I am a student [of the Torah]," we do not say that [he must be a student] of the caliber of ben Azzai and ben Zoma.8Students of Rabbi Akiva, renowned for their scholarship in their youth. Their promising futures were effaced after they entered a mystical experience together with their master. (See Chaggigah 14b.) Instead, it is sufficient that when one asks him a question regarding his studies, he is able to answer. [This includes] even the laws of the festivals that are studied in public; these are easy matters that are studied close to the festival, so that people at large will be familiar with them.

[When a man tells a woman: "Behold, you are consecrated to me] on condition that I am a wise man," we do not say that [he must be] like Rabbi Akiva and his colleagues. Instead, it is sufficient that when one asks him a point of logic with regard to any subject, he is able to answer. "...On condition that I am mighty," we do not say that [he must be] like Avner ben Ner9The commander of King Saul's armies. or Yoav.10Yoav ben Tz'ruyah, the commander of King David's armies. Rather, it is sufficient that his colleagues fear him because of his might. "...On condition that I am rich," we do not say that [he must be as wealthy] as Rabbi Eleazar ben Azariah.11Who was renowned for his wealth. Each year he would give 12,000 calves as the tithes of his herd (Shabbat 54b). Another version of the text also mentions Elazar ben Chersom whose wealth is described in Yoma 35b. Rather, it is sufficient that the inhabitants of his city honor him because of his wealth.

[When a man tells a woman: "Behold, you are consecrated to me] on condition that I am righteous," even if the person is known to be thoroughly wicked, there is doubt [regarding the status of the kiddushin, and] the woman is considered as consecrated. For it is possible that he had thoughts of repentance in his heart at that time.12The doubt exists only because we cannot be aware of what is happening within the person's heart or mind. If we could be sure that he had repented within his heart, he is considered a righteous man, regardless of his previous conduct. This demonstrates the power of teshuvah, how one thought of repentance can transform one's spiritual level from one extreme to the other.

"...On condition that I am wicked," even if the person is known to be thoroughly righteous, there is doubt [regarding the status of the kiddushin, and] the woman is considered as consecrated, since it is possible that he had thoughts of idol worship in his heart at that time. For the sin of idol worship is so great that even when a person thinks of serving [idols] in his heart,13In general, a person is not punished for a sin unless he commits a deed. The worship of false gods is different. (See Hilchot Avodat Kochavim 2:6, which states: "Whoever accepts a false god as true, even when he does not actually worship it, disgraces and blasphemes [God's] glorious and awesome name." See also Hilchot Avodat Kochavim 2:1,3.) he is considered wicked, as [implied by Deuteronomy 11:16, which] states: "lest your hearts be tempted [and you go astray and serve other gods]," and [Ezekiel 14:5, which] states: "that I may detect the House of Israel in their hearts [for they are all estranged from Me because of their idols]."

6. [When a man] consecrates a woman and says, "I thought she was from a priestly family, and instead she is from a family of Levites," "...from a family of Levites, and instead she is from a priestly family," "...poor, and instead she is rich," or "...rich, and instead she is poor," she is consecrated, for she did not cause him to err.14Since he did not explicitly state the matter as a stipulation, his misconception does not cause the kiddushin to be nullified.

Similarly, if she says, "I thought he was a priest, and instead he is a Levite," "...a Levite, and instead he is a priest," "...poor, and instead he is rich," or "...rich, and instead he is poor," she is consecrated, for he did not cause her to err.

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א) האומר לאישה, התקדשי לי בכוס זה של יין ונמצא של דבש, של דבש ונמצא של יין, בדינר זה של כסף ונמצא של זהב, של זהב ונמצא של כסף, על מנת שאני כוהן ונמצא לוי, לוי ונמצא כוהן, נתין ונמצא ממזר, ממזר ונמצא נתין, בן עיר ונמצא בן כרך, בן כרך ונמצא בן עיר, על מנת שאני עשיר ונמצא עני, עני ונמצא עשיר, על מנת שביתי קרוב למרחץ ונמצא רחוק, רחוק ונמצא קרוב, על מנת שיש לי בת או שפחה גדלת או אופה ואין לו, על מנת שאין לו ויש לו, על מנת שיש לי אישה ובנים ואין לו, על מנת שאין לו ויש לו -- בכל אלו והדומין להן, אינה מקודשת; וכן, היא שהטעתו.

ב) ובכולם, אף על פי שאמרה בליבי היה להתקדש לו, אף על פי שהטעני ואין הדבר כמו שאמר, וכן אם אמר הוא בליבי היה לקדשה, אף על פי שהטעתני -- אינה מקודשת: דברים שבלב, אינן דברים.

ג) הרי את מקודשת לי, על מנת שאני בסם, ונמצא בסם ובורסי, על מנת שאני בן עיר, ונמצא בן עיר ובן כרך, על מנת ששמי יוסף, ונמצא שמו יוסף ושמעון -- הרי זו מקודשת; אבל אם אמר לה, על מנת שאין שמי אלא יוסף, ונמצא שמו יוסף ושמעון, שאיני אלא בסם, ונמצא בסם ובורסי, שאיני אלא בן עיר, ונמצא בן עיר ובן כרך -- אין זו מקודשת.

ד) האומר לאישה, הרי את מקודשת לי בזה, על מנת שאני יודע לקרות -- צריך שיקרא התורה ויתרגם אותה תרגום אונקלוס הגר; ואם אמר לה, על מנת שאני קראה -- צריך להיות יודע לקרות תורה נביאים וכתובים, בדקדוק יפה.

ה) על מנת שאני יודע לשנות -- צריך להיות יודע לקרות המשנה; על מנת שאני תנאה -- צריך להיות יודע לקרות המשנה וספרא וספרי ותוספתא של רבי חייא.

ו) [ה] על מנת שאני תלמיד -- אין אומרין כבן עזאי וכבן זומא, אלא כל ששואלין אותו דבר אחד בתלמודו ואומרו, ואפילו בהלכות החג שמלמדין אותן ברבים מדברים הקלים סמוך לחג, כדי שיהיו כל העם בקיאין בהן.

ז) על מנת שאני חכם -- אין אומרין כרבי עקיבה וחבריו, אלא כל ששואלין אותו דבר חכמה בכל מקום ואומר. על מנת שאני גיבור -- אין אומרין כאבנר בן נר וכיואב, אלא כל שחבריו מתייראים ממנו מפני גבורתו.

ח) על מנת שאני עשיר -- אין אומרין כרבי אלעזר בן עזריה, אלא כל שבני עירו מכבדין אותו מפני עושרו.

ט) על מנת שאני צדיק -- אפילו רשע גמור, הרי זו מקודשת מספק, שמא הירהר תשובה בדעתו. על מנת שהוא רשע -- אפילו צדיק גמור, הרי זו מקודשת מספק, שמא הירהר בעבודה זרה בדעתו: שעוון עבודה זרה גדול הוא, ומשיהרהר לעבוד בליבו ייעשה רשע, שנאמר "פן יפתה לבבכם" (דברים יא,טז), וכתוב "למען תפוש את בית ישראל, בליבם" (יחזקאל יד,ה).

י) [ו] המקדש את האישה ואמר, סבור הייתי שהיא כוהנת והרי היא לוייה, לוייה והרי היא כוהנת, ענייה והרי היא עשירה, עשירה והרי היא ענייה -- הרי זו מקודשת, מפני שלא הטעתו; וכן היא שאמרה, סבורה הייתי שהוא כוהן והרי הוא לוי, לוי והרי הוא כוהן, עשיר והרי הוא עני, עני והרי הוא עשיר -- הרי זו מקודשת, מפני שלא הטעה אותה.

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